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Issue 104 - The Worst Thing You Can Do for Those You Love is to Do the Things They Could and Should Do for Themselves

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Wooden's Wisdom - Volume 2 Issue 104
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THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO FOR THOSE YOU LOVE IS TO DO THE THINGS THEY COULD AND SHOULD DO FOR THEMSELVES

 
This famous quote of Abraham Lincoln’s was a favorite of Coach Wooden's and one he used frequently.
 
In his book A Game Plan for Life with Don Yaeger, Coach provided the following commentary on Lincoln and this key idea:
 
One of the first things that stood out to me about Lincoln’s life was the way he handled adversity.
 
His mother died while he was still very young. He didn’t have consistent access to schooling, so he taught himself. He was defeated in his first attempt at public office. He filed for bankruptcy. He was unlucky in love. He lost three times in his bid for the U.S. Senate.
 
But he persevered. Because he had not been spared the harsh realities of life—the heartaches and the disappointments—he could deal with the larger trials that awaited him down the road.
 
Lincoln himself once said, “The worst things you can do for those you love are the things they could and should do for themselves.”
 
He fiercely believed in self-sufficiency, and in the maturity and character that struggles and hardships can bring.
 
This lesson is so important for teachers and parents. It is only natural for us to want to shield our students and our children from anything that might possibly cause them hurt or to suffer or even to be uncomfortable.
 
But some degree of pain is necessary for a person to become suited for the responsibilities that lay ahead.
 
We, as parents, I think, deprive our children (the ones we love the most and want to help the most) of the development of initiative by making decisions for them too long in certain areas.
 
Give them the opportunity to fail. Let them learn from it so they won't make that same mistake over again when you are not there, telling them what or what not to do.
 
Bob Vigars, a mentee of Coach’s who teaches special-needs students within the Thames Valley District School Board in Canada, describes how he applies this idea with his students in the book A Game Plan for Life:
 
Often, my students come to my class discouraged because they have been told they aren’t smart enough to learn in a regular classroom.
 
I always remind them that it’s not that we can’t learn; it’s that we learn differently. And here I turn to the one quote from Coach Wooden that I probably rely on more than anything else: “Nothing will work unless you do.”
 
It is essential to my teaching that my students have a sense of ownership and responsibility in their own education.
 
Sometimes my students will get wrapped around a particularly challenging lesson and want me to just fill in the answer rather than walking them through the steps of solving it.
 
“I can’t pick up your pencil,” I tell them. “If I do that you’re not learning anything. Doing the work makes the difference between learning and not learning.”
 

Yours in Coaching,
 
 
Craig Impelman
 
 
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 Help Yourself to Happiness

  

Everybody, everywhere
seeks happiness, it's true,
But finding it and keeping it
seem difficult to do.

Difficult because we think
that happiness is found
Only in the places where
wealth and fame abound.

And so we go on searching
in palaces of pleasure
Seeking recognition
and monetary treasure,

Unaware that happiness
is just a state of mind
Within the reach of everyone
who takes time to be kind.

For in making others happy
we will be happy, too.
For the happiness you give away
returns to shine on you.

Helen Steiner Rice 

 

 

 

 

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