|Wooden's Wisdom - Volume 10
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Coach Wooden’s definition of Alertness had three key elements: "Be observing constantly. Stay open-minded. Be eager to learn and improve." Self-Alertness is the ability to apply these three principles to yourself when you engage in a conflict with another person.
If you are angry or frustrated by what somebody is saying or how they are saying it, step outside of yourself and observe your own emotions. Evaluate if your emotional anger or frustration is going to have productive results. Then resolve to calm down and decide how to use that energy in a more productive way.
If the other person is attempting to demean you with their tone or what they are saying, understand that they cannot demean you (you can only demean yourself); they are only demeaning themselves with their poor behavior. At your highest level of self-alertness, you will feel sorry for the other person and their lack of communication skill, as ultimately it will only hurt them, not you.
The second step in dealing with this conflict is to use self-alertness to ask yourself if you are being open-minded with regard to the content of the disagreement. Are there parts of the other person’s view that have value?
The third step is to use self-alertness to evaluate your motivation for what you are saying. Are you trying to show the other person how smart you are or are you communicating in an eager effort to learn and improve?
In his book, Wooden on Leadership, with Steve Jamison Coach Wooden wrote: "Whatever coaching and leadership skills I possess were learned through listening, observation, study, and then trial and error along the way."
The ability to use Self-Alertness to evaluate yourself is a valuable tool for happiness and personal growth.
How is your Self-Alertness?
Yours in Coaching,
'You're spoiling them!' the mother cries
Edgar Albert Guest (1881-1959)
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