|Wooden's Wisdom - Volume 12||Issue 573|
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"HONEST FEEDBACK CREATES TRUST" (DEL HARRIS PART FIFTEEN)
John Wooden Video Clip (46 sec.): Coach Wooden is asked: "What is the most important thing your father taught you?" Timeless Wisdom!
In September of 2022, legendary coach Del Harris was inducted into the Naismith Memorial Basketball Hall of Fame. Over sixty years, Coach Harris has displayed excellence at every level, first as a player, then as a High School, College, NBA, and International Coach.
Coach Harris, in his excellent book, On Point: Four Steps To Better Life Teams, does a wonderful job of describing how "Honest Feedback Creates Trust":
"Encouragement is a good, infectious quality. Of course, everything that happens on the court, or in life, is not okay. Positive responses are not always appropriate. Providing trophies for everyone hasn’t worked out all that well in youth sports, for instance. Good mentoring also requires the identification and correction of mistakes.
A point person’s overall approach should have an aura of positivism mixed with realism that is necessary when breakdowns need to be addressed. We need both kinds of input.
We all should be encouragers as leaders or role players on our various teams, but always in an appropriate context. We should be encouragers when it is time to encourage and applauders when it is time to applaud. But to offer giddy cheers like a spirit-squad member, regardless of performance quality, will take away from those times the team player really deserves recognition for a job well done. And it will give mixed signals to one who needs correction along with a measure of encouragement."
The skill of being able to correct in a direct manner without antagonizing requires you maintain your self-control and correct the behavior of the person without attacking their intent or character.
Self-control is also required to ensure that you are giving compliments that are deserved for a task well done or an excellent effort, not simply to "cheer somebody up."
Combining these two skills will make you a person who can be trusted for the truth.
How do you your team members feel about you?
Yours in Coaching,
The Little Velvet Suit
Last night I got to thinkin' of the pleasant long ago,
Edgar Albert Guest (1881-1959)
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