Wooden's Wisdom - Volume 13 | Issue 631 |
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WHEN YOU ARE TOLD NO… ASK WHY (JIA JIANG AND JOHN WOODEN) In his must-read book, "Rejection Proof," ( https://www.rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy ), Jia Jung makes the point that when you are rejected you should: "Ask "WHY" before GOOD-BYE." He put it this way:
"There is a reason behind every decision that people make, whether it’s logical and well thought out or emotional and spur of the moment. Knowing the reason behind a rejection can help dissipate, or even dissolve, any of the pain one might feel otherwise.
Many of the people who rejected me did so not because of the merit of my request, or because of anything about me, but for a completely different reason—sometimes one that was easily addressable.
Once I understood that, I realized I was able to cope with the rejection much more easily. I even learned to use rejections as learning experiences to make my requests even better the next time. There’s only an upside to asking "why." After all, you have been rejected already.
And the insight you might glean from the response you get could prove valuable. Indeed, asking "why" can even be a tool for turning a rejection into an acceptance."
The cornerstone of John Wooden’s success was his unrelenting curiosity (constantly asking why). Denny Crum felt one of Coach Wooden’s greatest strengths was that: "He didn’t feel he knew it all. He was always searching for ways to improve."
If you don’t ask "why" you won’t learn a new "how".
Do you ask "why" or just walk away?
Yours in Coaching, Craig Impelman
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