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A BETTER RESULT REQUIRES A DIFFERENT APPROACH (JIA JIANG AND JOHN WOODEN)
Coach Wooden said this about striving toward goals: "Realizing that the road to their achievement could be difficult and certain adversity may force you to change the method of attack, you may have to go around, under, over, backup and look the situation over. Try a different method."
"If I could adjust my request and approach the "ask" from a different angle, something interesting and unexpected might happen—and it often did."
Instead of running from rejection Jia suggests that you ask, "If you can’t do this, can you do something else?" In asking these questions again and again, it became obvious to me that there is often a lot more room to maneuver around a no than I’d ever realized. Every no is actually surrounded by a whole bunch of interesting but invisible yeses that it was up to me to uncover.
If you get turned down for a job, one option is to flee—but another option is to ask for recommendations for other positions based on your qualifications. If someone shoots down your sales pitch, you could ask for a referral to another department or client. By having a position to retreat to—and keeping an open mind—you can often avoid being routed by rejection."
Coach Wooden liked to say: "Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be."
Do you try a different approach when you don’t like your result?
Yours in Coaching,
Craig Impelman
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COACH'S FAVORITE POETRY AND PROSE
The Toiler
He swore that he'd be true to her,
If she would only marry him;
That as his wife, throughout his life
She'd never know a moment grim.
He vowed that he would toil for her,
That she should wear the latest things,
He'd robe in furs that form of hers
And deck her hands with diamond rings.
He promised her a motor car,
And maids to answer her commands;
In water hot, with dish and pot
He swore she'd never dip her hands.
Oh, fine the promises he made,
Oh, vows by which her heart was stirred!
And since that time, it's been a crime
The way he's worked to keep his word.
Edgar Albert Guest (1881-1959)
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