|Wooden's Wisdom - Volume 6||Issue 275|
|Craig Impelman Speaking | Championship Coaches | Champion's Leadership Library Login|
IT TAKES TRUST, FAITH AND PATIENCE TO ACQUIRE PEACE OF MIND
When people are considering a relationship or doing business with you, one of the first things they want to know is whether or not they can trust you.
Trust can mean different things to different people.
In his book Coach Wooden's Pyramid of Success, with Jay Carty, Coach Wooden wrote about four qualities (sincerity, honesty, reliability, integrity) which when combined, I believe, do a great job of defining the personal traits needed to be trustworthy. Here’s Coach’s thoughts:
Sincerity: We cannot become successful unless we interact with others. Sincerity is the mortar that binds together the blocks of friendship, loyalty, cooperation and team spirit.
Sincerity may not make a friend, but it will keep one. It often takes a while to be validated, but once a person knows that our word, character and steadfastness have withstood the test of life, a firm friendship can be established and maintained.
Honesty: Honesty is doing the things that we know are right and not giving in to the temptation to do the things that we know are wrong. Honesty must occur at all times, in both thought and action. Honest people stay on the narrow way, regardless of the consequences.
A dishonest act is an attempt to deceive someone. It is possible to be so deceptive that we even deceive ourselves. We do this when we want to justify a lie because of circumstances or as payback when someone has been dishonest with us. Dishonesty – no matter the reason – destroys our credibility, ruins our reputation and costs us our self-respect.
Reliability: When we are reliable, others know that they can depend on us. They know that we will make the effort to do our best, whatever the situation might be. Reliability earns the respect of those around us.
Capability doesn't have anything to do with reliability. Some people don't have as much capability as others have, but they make up for their lack by being reliable.
Integrity: Integrity in its simplest form is purity of intention. It's keeping a clean conscience.
Purity of intention is really a reflection of the heart. The heart of a person with integrity always wants to do what's right, once he or she is sure what "right” is. When we have integrity, we are not going to do anything that will be demeaning to anybody else.
People with integrity are, as Coach said: genuinely concerned about the betterment of others.
To evaluate a relationship ask yourself if the other person would describe you as sincere, honest, reliable and full of integrity.
Who are you going to influence? How?
Yours in Coaching,
It’s easy to fight when everything’s right,
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